Whether we mean to or not, sometimes what we think is going to be helpful, is sometimes, well not. This is not meant to offend anyone, but a look into how helpfulness can be perceived by survivors.
“I don’t want people walking on eggshells around me or treat me like I’m so fragile that I’ll break. If I was fragile I would have shattered a long time ago. What happened to me was unfortunate but it hasn’t and will not break me. I can’t live my life afraid of being triggered or upset because that is letting him win. I don’t want people being afraid either. People may think they are helping but honestly it just upsets me. Instead people can listen to me when I choose to talk about whatever and validating me and believing me.
I am working towards the best life possible with my husband.
Recap: I’m not broken, fragile, damaged… None of those things.”
You are not broken, fragile or damaged either!