How Not to Treat a Survivor

Whether we mean to or not, sometimes what we think is going to be helpful, is sometimes, well not. This is not meant to offend anyone, but a look into how helpfulness can be perceived by survivors.

“I don’t want people walking on eggshells around me or treat me like I’m so fragile that I’ll break. If I was fragile I would have shattered a long time ago. What happened to me was unfortunate but it hasn’t and will not break me. I can’t live my life afraid of being triggered or upset because that is letting him win. I don’t want people being afraid either. People may think they are helping  but honestly it just upsets me. Instead people can listen to me when I choose to talk about whatever and validating me and believing me.
I am working towards the best life possible with my husband.
Recap: I’m not broken, fragile, damaged… None of those things.”
You are not broken, fragile or damaged either!

Love always,


About katiebutterfly🦋

I'm 29 years young. Married to my best friend Jeff. Love our beautiful black and white kitties - Bunny and Trouble. I love my job at the library. I love music, books and just life experience! I'm a survivor of sexual abuse and mental illness. I'm an advocate and a voice for those who have not yet found theirs! I am also in the process of growing my wings and becoming a beautiful butterfly - Katie Butterfly.

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